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Drawing The Line and Knowing Thy Role

Situation Breakdown:

You talk to a woman, get to know a woman, find out she has a dude she’s fuckin guy she’s “talking” to boyfriend, or she’s single but not interested then ends up with a boyfriend down the line. Ok, cool. You know your position now. No problem. You exchange numbers, have cordial conversations every now and again. You see each other at public gatherings and converse. Everything is swell.

Then you get this text message:

So, can I borrow like 200 dollars to get my A/C fixed?

Pump your brakes


I’m not your man. Sorry.

Ladies, there are certain things you just cannot ask of your male friends while you have a guy. They are:

  • Money
  • Clothes
  • Job hookups for Him
  • Food
  • Emotional Comfort

There are rules to the game of life, and one you must remember is:

“Whoever is pleasing the pussy must also provide for it”

Just like the cable, you gotta pay for that OnDemand pussy.

Point blank period.

The dude you laying next to, those are his responsibilities. You out here sucking his dick every night, but he can’t keep the lights on in your house? No bueno. That means you need to change your priorities up in the kind of men you are dating. It is up to HIM to get that money, be it overtime at work, hitting that corner, selling some dick to lonely obese housewives, asking his peoples, whatever. Your responsibility goes as far as either getting it YOURSELF, from your man, or your female friends. Why do you ask is the game like this?

1. It’s His Responsibility

It really is though. His woman wants or needs, it’s up to him to provide, not for some other man to supplement what he is lacking. Because at the end of the day, if she is getting down on her knees to please you every night, the least you can do is to put in some effort during these times to keep things smoothly. If he can’t handle that responsibility and it has you running to everyone but him when problems arise, it might be time for you to get a new guy.

2. It’s Disrespectful

Men are prideful people, so to ask another man for something instead of letting your man figure it out is tantamount to saying “You aren’t man enough to handle this problem, so I’m going to go to a real one who can.” No real man is having that shit, and can cause potential friction between your guy friend and your current beau. Also, any guy that you are dating that DOESN’T care that another man is taking care of your needs, is NOT a real man. Not now, not ever. Also, its disrespectful to the friend as well. What man do you know thinks its okay to take his money and then lay up with another man with it? I don’t know any. It’s basically saying, “Hey, you are good as my personal ATM/shoulder to cry on/chef, but not good enough to be anything romantically related.” Yeah, fuck that noise.

3. It’s Not My Pussy To Worry About

It just isn’t. I have my own bills and my own concerns, to which most of them I get something in return out of. I pay my cell phone bill, so I get in return cell phone service. I pay the light bill, I get lights and electricity. But what do I get in return for this work/money I give her? An “Aww, thanks” and that’s it. Then what does her guy get? The pussy I’m currently paying for. Fuck that. I’m not about to pay for someone else to reap the benefits of my work. Nah son, not me. When you date someone, they provide it all, mentally, spiritually, physically, emotionally, financially, all that. If he can’t do it, I’m damn sure not about to pay for your bad decision-making. If you are with a man and all he has is the physical aspect down pat, then shit, you need to work with that. If you want more, you need to drop him and go out and get someone who can get more. But know this, if I’m fronting 27% of the money coming into your household this week, I’m gonna want 27% of the blowjobs and sex that you are providing. I mean, it’s only fair right? If I’m gonna be up until 5 am having a woman crying on my shoulder, she damn sure better be a childhood friend or single, because I’m not about to lift your mood just so another guy can lift your skirt.

Know Your Role and them legs.

Know thy role ladies: if you have a man, let him take care of you. If he can’t or is unwilling to, you should take this as an opportunity to re-evaluate your relationship and what you are looking for in a man.


9 responses

  1. I don’t know about you, but I’m going to help out a friend regardless. Of course, if she’s just an acquaintance or whatever, it’s far less likely, but still.
    Also, the fact that I don’t really believe as strongly in gender roles as you do has a factor in it.

    June 4, 2011 at 2:06 pm

    • Dez

      I respectfully disagree with your opinion. I really can’t believe that you would pay out money to a woman that can spend intimate time with her beau (not just sex, but it is included) but come to you with her problems. Can you honestly tell me what you are getting out of that kind of relationship. That kind of bond is disrespectful at the least, and extremely harmful to the maximum extent. You’re good enough to be seen as an emotional and financial sink, but not as a potential boyfriend? Fuck a gender role, its about taking care of each OTHER’s needs. If that’s not happening, why is there a relationship in the first place? It’s like he said, she better be a childhood friend, because otherwise; take your ass somewhere else with that shit. Excuse my French.

      September 21, 2011 at 9:08 pm

      • That’s what I was saying. Do you think I’m gonna give money to a woman with a man? Not on your life.

        September 22, 2011 at 1:20 am

      • I would help out a guy friend in dire need. Similarly, I would help out a girl friend in dire need. I don’t see how this is a difficult concept to grasp.
        Just because I’m not fucking her doesn’t mean it would be a mortal sin to help her out, especially if the guy she’s with is useless.

        October 2, 2011 at 2:01 pm

      • Of course, though, there’s a line that I would draw. That’s a given, and would apply in any relationship of any kind ever. Fuck.

        October 2, 2011 at 2:02 pm

  2. Lexi

    As a married woman, I respect this to the fullest. A man should be responsible for all aspects of his woman’s happiness. Co-sign!!!

    June 16, 2011 at 7:05 pm

  3. You a wild one for this post cuz but its real as hell…

    July 21, 2011 at 12:06 am

  4. This all seems like it should be common sense but *sighs* I see it isn’t. I guess my only exception would be going to family for certain things like problems with my car but other than that I’d keep other men out of my relationship.

    November 22, 2011 at 12:38 pm

    • common sense is not common.

      March 14, 2012 at 2:17 am

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